Wow. It has been over a year since my last post. I apologize.
In the last months I have become more sensible towards political correctness. I hope I can persuade you to adapt your language to build a better society, bottom-up. I do not argue we must all go to rallies or post posters. I argue we ought to acknowledge the effects of our language over others, and change it for the better.
I was no fan of political correctness. I thought it to be a typical exaggeration driven by people who took themselves too seriously. I completely underestimated the effect language and our environment has over us. I was unable to comprehend the devastating effects of language, since I never thought of myself as being in the receiving end of political incorrectness. Now I understand. We are systematically undermining many individuals by perpetuating stereotypes and using offensive language. We are systematically destroying self-esteem and opportunities for many individuals. I believe humankind, at least in some parts of the world, has made terrific advances in liberating the human spirit and destroying the shackles of tribal mentality. Our lives are not predestined. We do not have to conform to predefined roles we have no influence over. But it is not enough. We still discriminate. We still perpetuate useless stereotypes. We do so consciously. We do so unconsciously.
To illustrate the effects stereotypes, some researchers gave Asian American women a math test. Some were reminded they were Asian. Some were reminded they were women. Those who were reminded they were Asian performed much better in the math test than those who were reminded they were women; confirming the stereotype that Asians are good at math and women are not. Merely reminding someone of a stereotype increases the likelihood that they act the part. When we talk with friends and draw generalizations we are perpetuating stereotypes. If we continually say that women are bad at math, we can wind up actually lowering their performance in math. We could decrease the probability that some persist after the first failure. There are other times when we think we are using language neutrally, but end up causing real psychological damage to people.
You may think that hilariously politically incorrect comments are ok (e.g. “That music is so black, my speakers just got stolen.”) but they are not. You are putting a huge amount of individuals who may have nothing in common besides their skin color under the same roof. If you say it enough, many will wind up believing their identity is completely and inevitably bounded to a group they did not choose to belong to. You may think that saying “that is so gay” is just a way of expressing something, and that no one would take it seriously; but you would be dead wrong. The way we use language can have devastating effects over someone. It does not cost much changing it. You just have to be aware the real effects it has. You ought to notice something is wrong when someone says something negative; and if possible, point out their mistake.
The worst one, I think, is the systematic repression of women in our society. We talk in a way where the role of women in society is reduced to supporting males. Is there a particular reason women should be the only ones who do groceries, clean, take care of the kids and sacrifice their careers for them? Why is it that women can not talk freely about having sex with different partners? Why are (straight) men able, and even encouraged, to talk about their sexual relations and women not? We say to small girls they look pretty; we say to little boys they are smart. We encourage boys to become leaders. We encourage girls to be ornaments. Very often they end up playing the part society pre-wrote for them. Many will make the weak argument that women are the first ones to promote machismo. I know many who do. But even if that were true, it is not a justification. Many women will rationally make the decision to stay at home, many will make the decision to not pursue a career. That is perfectly fine. It is their call. However, there is no reason for those roles to be the default ones.
Whenever you say “All + [Insert any group of people]” you are lowering your IQ by 10 points. If mental laziness were a crime, this would be a go to jail directly card. This is worse when you the group you are referring to is comprise of individuals who were born into a group they did not actively choose to be a part of, such as gender, race, sexual orientation, and religious background. Whenever you say a negative comment about a group, think of someone you know who belongs to it and does not fit the stereotype. It can be a friend, it can be a role model, it can be your mother. If you say a xenophobic thing, think of someone great from that nationality. If you use gay as a negative word, think of a friend you appreciate who is gay. If you limit women in the way you talk to and about them, think of a great female. Your comments are hurting them. Sometimes badly. You are limiting their potential. You are reducing them.
Watch your language. It has consequences. Be a better person.